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Why Do Girls Gossip?

According to Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, most kids agree that 鍍alking behind someone痴 back is unkind, but they do it anyway. A lot.

Most of the gossip was not mean. Over half of the comments just involved sharing information. Another quarter was for entertainment and involved sharing a laugh or an interesting story. Only 7% of the gossip comments were aggressive remarks that could hurt someone痴 social standing.

People are interesting. Gossip makes up about two-thirds of the naturally occurring conversations of adult men and women, so it痴 unrealistic to expect kids never to gossip.

Gossip can have a positive side: It can help children figure out peer group relationships. Talking about others helps kids understand what behaviors are or are not valued by peers, who is or isn稚 getting along with whom, and who is or isn稚 trustworthy. Just as adults need to be at least somewhat clued in to the grape vine at work or in their communities, kids need to know what痴 going on with their peers.

Gossip can also create a sense of intimacy, because it involves shared confidences. Both kids and adults are more likely to gossip with friends than with strangers.

But it痴 also important to help kids understand that they can hurt someone badly through gossip. Reputations can go down quickly, but they池e hard to repair. If you or your child has been the subject of mean gossip, you know how cruel words can hurt reputations and feelings. Spreading false rumors is a vicious thing to do. Sharing unflattering information or judgments about someone is unkind, and sadly, often the weapon of choice among adolescent girls.

Gossip can also lead to conflict. Here痴 a situation that comes up often: One girl says something mean to a second girl about a third girl. The second girl, thinking she痴 being a loyal friend, tells the third girl about the first girl痴 comments. The third girl is then mad at the first girl for making the comments, and the first girl is mad at the second girl for blabbing. Tears and ugly drama ensue.

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I took this picture at the Yuan Yang market. I don稚 know if this sextet is gossiping about any man, or about their secret, because they spoke their Hani minority dialect that I don稚 understand. I wish they were praising someone as a hero.

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